Do right by yourself

So goes the Universe, ebbing and flowing over our lives, swirling experiences produced of free will mixed with an unfolding set plan we often do not understand.

Or so I believe, anyway.

Many of us remain stuck in old ways that aren’t working for us, and yet we are unwilling to change the one thing that would change everything. We question what our heart tells us and keep doing what we’ve always done because it is grossly familiar and the unknown is a scary place.

Pay attention to your intuition. Follow it. It speaks the truth.

Or so I believe, anyway.

Of particular interest to me, of late, are the wise little children around me who don’t worry what others think. They believe in their voice. They ask for what they want and need and aren’t afraid to put themselves first. 

Some of the women out there could take a lesson or two from the primary school of thought and start acting like the grown ups they think they are. 

We are not born to be quiet, hide our emotions, our wants, and our needs. Somewhere along the line, some of us lost our way—were encouraged and convinced by selfish forces to put those precious gifts of individuality at the back of the line. Some of us forgot that our individual precious inside happiness matters. What a shame.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that children are the greatest teachers. They are more honest with their immediate feelings than most any other living creature on earth. They are not afraid to wear their heart on their sleeve.

You there. Don’t use others as excuses to hide behind. Do not blame the other for what is wrong in your own life. Find better things to do than soak in self-imposed sticky pudding excuses for not standing up, hard as it may be, and owning yourself.

This life is not about what someone else has to fix in his or her own life. This is about what you are willing to live with and what you are not, and what makes you happy and what does not. No one else can do that for you.

Today, begin to believe you are a phenomenally strong woman who knows for sure that choice is possible and that “stepping onto a brand, new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation which is not nurturing to the whole woman.”

If you want positive change, start with you. If you need help, ask for it.

The late Martha Graham, one of the pioneers of modern dance, believed that we learn by practice.

“Whether it means to learn to dance by practicing dancing or to learn to live by practicing living, the principles are the same. In each, it is the performance of a dedicated precise set of acts, physical or intellectual, from which comes shape of achievement, a sense of one’s being, a satisfaction of spirit.”

Or so I believe, anyway.